Transformation

'The only constant is change' - a famous saying that happens to be quite true so the question is not how do we transform but what do we transform into ?

Every moment we are making choices that effect who we are , they define us and constantly transform who we are the next moment so it is literally impossible to ever remain unchanged. Each thought we have shifts our perception of ourselves and thus the world around us is seen with new eyes and in our experience seems to change as well. Just as a caterpillar will go through life seeing a world of branches and leaves once transformed into a butterfly it's world will become beautiful flowers and expansive skies , so may you willingness to let go of who you are enable you to become whatever you dream to be!

So what dreams are we having ? The answer to this will lead us to what we are becoming if we stay focused on an abundant future' following our Bliss' as Joseph Campbell so eloquently put, then our life will reflect that. All it takes is 'Intention, Attention and No-Tension' as Janet bray attwood says in the Passion test , yet hidden in here is the key it is the tension that prevents us from having what we desire ,or more accurately experiencing what we choose. Marianne williamson hit the nail on the head when she spoke about our greatest fear being our light and not our darkness , in fact we often feel more secure hidden from sight than exposed in the light . What we undeniable choose is to be limited , to project our power outwards to many seemingly unswayable sources , our families,our teachers, our society, our government even our God , (whether we call it Fate , destiny or universe) This allows us to be comfortable with the small scope of our responsibility and not overawed by the truth , that we are responsible for it all .

Every experience that comes to us is one of infinite possibilities available in every moment from the vast unknown , were all things exist not materially but potentially . So we do not so much as create , but select and witness from the all that is ,based on our priorities at the time and these line up as stepping stones for our future .

However our priorities are split, as Aurobindo puts it between our conscious , sub unconscious and super-conscious , with all three sending out different signals that confuse the experience. So the only way to become integral in our choice is to become unified in our objective , to have all three aspects of ourselves in harmony . To analyse and restructure our foundations , the subconscious scripts so that they are in accordance with our grander vision. To let go of the conscious ego's limited ideas and align it with the greater aspect of our eternal soul that is one with the source , dropping our fears and transforming ourselves each day to a bright new being!

INTIMACY - INTO MY SELF I SEE!

INTIMACY - INTO MY SELF I SEE!

The oxford dictionary defines intimacy as friendship, rapport, closeness, affection & affinity it struck me that there was an order to this that lead to a very important realisation!
We start a friendship , build a rapport , become closer ,develop affection and recognise an affinity , in Nepal they have a word for this recognition; NAMESTE ! It means ' I see the God in you' and it is how they greet each other every day to remember the truth of those before you.

However in the west we went a different direction. We developed a cloak of separation that protects us from world , we distance ourselves from harms way and set up sophisticated security methods to prevent anyone from getting to close . We seek to avoid repetition of Pain that we have felt in our lives and look for people to earn our trust before opening up , also we want to hide our faults as we fear the judgement that others might bring to their interpretation of our past , but most of all , as marianne williamson says" it is not our darkness we fear but our light" and it is this that we wish to hide ! If another was to truly see the magnificence we are , we would be faced with the conclusion that we are the God they see and in this have to own our own creator-ship and be responsible for our whole lives. This ownership is a daunting thing and leads us face to face with our deepest fears , the questions of why ? Why has our life played out the way it has ,?Why am I here ? Why did I do this to myself ? Most of us are not prepared to go there , so we stay distant from others and therefore distant from ourselves living a life of surface interactions constantly yearning for the touch that can never reach us .

As we get older and wiser in life we see time after time how we repeat the patterns of relationship , how the idiocy of presenting to a potential suitor a false image of ourselves, how we hold back from revealing and try to figure out what the other wants . how we should be to give us the greatest chance of winning their approval . Only to feel trapped in this fake persona a year down the line and as we start to resist its restricting limitations we are surprised that our partner is disenchanted and the inevitable break up ensues with both bitter for the deceit.

Finally after many repetitions of this scenario we gain the wisdom and the courage to strip away the layers of protection and to be true to our selves to allow our Intuition, Instinct and Insight to lead us . No longer hiding we step naked into each day with trust realising that in our truth we attract those which are in harmony with our soul not our ego! Thus with the distortion of illusion removed all can see us clearly for who we really are.

The opportunity of intimacy then is to go there, to enter the challenge of vulnerability and discover our true selves in the gaze of another !