The Mirrors of Reflection

1 the Mirror of reflection - what you seeing directly reflects what you are feeling.

2 the Mirror of Judgement - What you are seeing is the polar opposite of how you act , however you act this way because you judge yourself to harshly and need to become more in balance and allow then you will see your reflections become more Harmonious

3 The Mirror of Love - What you see is what you aspire too , the part of you that you keep hidden that another expresses openly !

The Man in front of you is YOU !

( A brief description from Greg Braden's work with the Essene Philosophy)

Stop Needing and you wont be found Wanting!

Recentley whilst reading 'The Secrets of a Passionate Marriage' by David Schnarch P.H.D, i came across a secret that hit me as so True, that i just had to share it with you!
In all Relationships in our Life we have one desire that permeates , we want to be wanted! Or to put it another way, that any one that is with us ,is there because they want to be , they choose freely & Honestly to connect with us on whatever level purely for the joy of being in our company!
However there is a hitch , and quite a big one ! ... hidden in our Ego is a stronger yearning that has hijacked this emotion and coerced it for its own deeper plan! Being wanted is not enough because we fear the uncertainity of it , it has no security , and more importantly no CONTROL! So the creation we all manifest in many wonderous and insiduous ways is the NEED to be NEEDED!
It is in this twisted way that the ego controls the game and throws out hooks into those around us , all be it often subconsciously, to manipulate there psuedo loyalty and thus avoid the risk of losing them by unexpectedly!
Now the point is this , if someone needs you they are unable to want you. Wanting implies a choice with both yes and no as options, yet if another is in need of you they have lost the ability to choose and in that loss of freedom your own inner recognition goes unwitnessed. You are now controlling their options and the prize of their presence is hollow and false, leaving you confused and lost.
Now the good news is that once you see this playing out you can change it !
Stop looking to be Needed and you will find you are Wanted!

Transformation

'The only constant is change' - a famous saying that happens to be quite true so the question is not how do we transform but what do we transform into ?

Every moment we are making choices that effect who we are , they define us and constantly transform who we are the next moment so it is literally impossible to ever remain unchanged. Each thought we have shifts our perception of ourselves and thus the world around us is seen with new eyes and in our experience seems to change as well. Just as a caterpillar will go through life seeing a world of branches and leaves once transformed into a butterfly it's world will become beautiful flowers and expansive skies , so may you willingness to let go of who you are enable you to become whatever you dream to be!

So what dreams are we having ? The answer to this will lead us to what we are becoming if we stay focused on an abundant future' following our Bliss' as Joseph Campbell so eloquently put, then our life will reflect that. All it takes is 'Intention, Attention and No-Tension' as Janet bray attwood says in the Passion test , yet hidden in here is the key it is the tension that prevents us from having what we desire ,or more accurately experiencing what we choose. Marianne williamson hit the nail on the head when she spoke about our greatest fear being our light and not our darkness , in fact we often feel more secure hidden from sight than exposed in the light . What we undeniable choose is to be limited , to project our power outwards to many seemingly unswayable sources , our families,our teachers, our society, our government even our God , (whether we call it Fate , destiny or universe) This allows us to be comfortable with the small scope of our responsibility and not overawed by the truth , that we are responsible for it all .

Every experience that comes to us is one of infinite possibilities available in every moment from the vast unknown , were all things exist not materially but potentially . So we do not so much as create , but select and witness from the all that is ,based on our priorities at the time and these line up as stepping stones for our future .

However our priorities are split, as Aurobindo puts it between our conscious , sub unconscious and super-conscious , with all three sending out different signals that confuse the experience. So the only way to become integral in our choice is to become unified in our objective , to have all three aspects of ourselves in harmony . To analyse and restructure our foundations , the subconscious scripts so that they are in accordance with our grander vision. To let go of the conscious ego's limited ideas and align it with the greater aspect of our eternal soul that is one with the source , dropping our fears and transforming ourselves each day to a bright new being!

INTIMACY - INTO MY SELF I SEE!

INTIMACY - INTO MY SELF I SEE!

The oxford dictionary defines intimacy as friendship, rapport, closeness, affection & affinity it struck me that there was an order to this that lead to a very important realisation!
We start a friendship , build a rapport , become closer ,develop affection and recognise an affinity , in Nepal they have a word for this recognition; NAMESTE ! It means ' I see the God in you' and it is how they greet each other every day to remember the truth of those before you.

However in the west we went a different direction. We developed a cloak of separation that protects us from world , we distance ourselves from harms way and set up sophisticated security methods to prevent anyone from getting to close . We seek to avoid repetition of Pain that we have felt in our lives and look for people to earn our trust before opening up , also we want to hide our faults as we fear the judgement that others might bring to their interpretation of our past , but most of all , as marianne williamson says" it is not our darkness we fear but our light" and it is this that we wish to hide ! If another was to truly see the magnificence we are , we would be faced with the conclusion that we are the God they see and in this have to own our own creator-ship and be responsible for our whole lives. This ownership is a daunting thing and leads us face to face with our deepest fears , the questions of why ? Why has our life played out the way it has ,?Why am I here ? Why did I do this to myself ? Most of us are not prepared to go there , so we stay distant from others and therefore distant from ourselves living a life of surface interactions constantly yearning for the touch that can never reach us .

As we get older and wiser in life we see time after time how we repeat the patterns of relationship , how the idiocy of presenting to a potential suitor a false image of ourselves, how we hold back from revealing and try to figure out what the other wants . how we should be to give us the greatest chance of winning their approval . Only to feel trapped in this fake persona a year down the line and as we start to resist its restricting limitations we are surprised that our partner is disenchanted and the inevitable break up ensues with both bitter for the deceit.

Finally after many repetitions of this scenario we gain the wisdom and the courage to strip away the layers of protection and to be true to our selves to allow our Intuition, Instinct and Insight to lead us . No longer hiding we step naked into each day with trust realising that in our truth we attract those which are in harmony with our soul not our ego! Thus with the distortion of illusion removed all can see us clearly for who we really are.

The opportunity of intimacy then is to go there, to enter the challenge of vulnerability and discover our true selves in the gaze of another !

Allowing Abundance!

Abundant Living!

The nature of Abundance is often the Achilles heel of the modern world of spirituality, people who devote time and energy towards there daily practice achieving a sense of well being , seem to stumble when faced with the manifestation of Wealth in their everyday life ,in particular the Energy vibration we call MONEY !

Money is the most tangible and free form of energy present in our Western world , it crosses all barriers , translates into all languages and takes all forms , it has no prejudices , biases or agendas , being available to all , in fact as Byron Katie says " it is a great example to follow" so why do we have so much charge about it ?

All meaning is assigned , everything we experience in life starts as neutral , it then has meaning assigned to it by us based on how we are effected by our interaction with it ! All our conclusions , both learnt and taught , made in the past are then superimposed onto the next similar experience we have , and thus a preconceived idea is projected onto each moment , cutting us off from really being present and seeing a new perspective!

This is what we all have about money , a bunch of judgments and feelings , about having it or not having it , about others having more or less of it than us and what that means , should we feel guilty or grateful , generous or miserly , in fact there are so many paradoxical opinions about it that it is no wonder we have a difficult time understanding it !

So the first thing to do is to stop blaming Money ! Money is not a 'thing' but simply an expression of your energy in the world and how you relate to it . Just like electrical current you often can not see it , you don't know what it is exactly yet you use it everyday for a multitude of devices with out any judgments. There is an infinite supply of energy (i.e. money) and Abundance is the realization of this fact , so how do we experience more or less of it?..... by our choices!

Imagine you are a hole in the fabric of reality and on one side is the infinite energy of the source and it shines through you out onto the vast blackness of space creating your own picture called life . Now the size of that hole ( i.e. you ) is the only limitation to the energy you perceive is yours, so in order to experience more energy in what ever form you choose, money , vitality , time or love all you have to do is open yourself up to it ! And the reason we do not, is because we fear we will tear the very make up of our personality , our ego's, which are built on the false concept that we are reactors to out there , not in truth the creators from in here!

So in conclusion abundance is not something to get but something to allow! In each moment you are the one choosing what shows up in your life and how much of it. Remove your own fears and judgments , increase your level of acceptance and witness the Infinite Source expressing through you !

Being stuck is the beginning of freedom!

Knowing you are stuck and admitting it is the first most powerful step there is , we can go many lifetimes completely oblivious to this fact and look for all the reasons outside of ourselves and constantly go round in spirals , but when we finally stop and let go of our pride we can open up to the help and compassion that is available to us in all situations , yet realise this can only come to us when we give ourselves the same compassion by asking for help!

The appearance of others living a better life or grander vision is a gift it is your soul telling you that this is available to you too and the sadness you feel about it is because you know that your current choices are holding you back from grasping this truth .
Everyone is always dying , and it is the daily death of our personality , the letting go of all we have invested in that allows us to recreate ourselves with a fresh new vision learning from every experience and building on this wisdom to put ourselves back together each day , so you can see that it is only the ego that is dying the soul is growing !

You are so right each time of deep sadness forces us to drop our masks and the facade of success and happiness and allows us heartfelt inquiry into our doubts and fears , and it is in this true listening that we are heard and that aspect of ourselves is reunited with the totality of our grander being , we become our own beloved and in our own forgiveness we are made whole.

The lessons and people that come into your life repeatedly are there at your request and they will keep showing up as long as your are avoiding the wisdom they are giving you , it is only when we realise this and take responsibility for it that we stop seeing things as negative but rather as an opportunity to experience what we have chosen , i.e. if we wish to know ourselves as peaceful then the opposite will show up so that we may know ourselves as this , our if we declare that something going to our plan will improve us , then the plan will always fall apart because the truth is that we can not be improved we are already and will always be amazing wonderful unlimited beings so we will never feel better if we look for it in achievement or advancement , only in totally acceptance and the dropping of judgement of our feelings and the openness to allow them will we see underneath the truth of our perfection!

so to answer you questions !

THERE IS NOTHING YOU HAVE TO DO ...EXCEPT WHAT YOU CHOOSE TO DO IN EACH MOMENT , YOUR CHOICE IS ALWAYS THE PERFECT ONE!

THERE IS NOTHING YOU HAVE TO BE , YOU ALREADY ARE EVERYTHING , SO SIMPLY CHOOSE WHAT ASPECT OF THE ALL YOU WOULD LIKE TO EXPERIENCE AND BE IT!..THEN ONCE YOU ARE DONE CHOOSE AGAIN AND BE THAT , AL;LOW THIS PROCESS TO UNFOLD INFINITELY AS THE MYSTERY IS INEXHAUSTIBLE!

YOU ARE ALREADY MANIFESTING THE LIFE OF YOUR DREAMS ALWAYS SO THE SECRET IS LOOK AT WHAT YOU ARE DREAMING ABOUT AND WHY , WHAT DO YOU FEEL IT WILL GIVE YOU REALISE THAT IT IS ALREAY PERFECT NOW CELEBRATE THE THINGS YOU HAVE TO BE GRATEFUL FOR NOW AND THEN WATCH AS THAT GRATITUDE ATTRACTS MORE OF THAT FEELING INTO YOUR LIFE, WHEN YOU JUDGE YOU CURRENT CIRCUMSTANCE TO NOT BE GOOD ENOUGH AND YOU FOCUS ON THAT YOU WILL CONTINUE TO ATTRACT MORE OF THAT INTO YOUR LIFE SO CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS ABOUT IT , AND IT WILL CHANGE!

THE REASON YOU HAVE LOST ALL HOPE IS THAT WHAT YOU WERE AFTER IS AN IDEA OF BETTERMENT AND A JUDGEMENT OF NON PERFECTION OF WHERE YOU ARE NOW , SO THERE IS PERFECTION IN YOUR DESPAIR ALLOW TRUE WITNESSING AS THE FEELING CONSUMES YOU , FOCUS ON THE CORE OF THIS , BE DILIGENT WITH YOUR INQUIRY AND JUDGE YOURSELF NOT , BUT LET THE SEED OF YOUR SORROW BE SEEN IT IS BURIED BELOW THE EVERYDAY REASONS AND AT ITS ROOT YOU WILL FIND A SEED OF WISDOM , A ANCIENT RECONNECTION WITH YOUR SOUL , DO NOT AVOID THIS TIME KNOW THAT WHEN THE SUFFERING IS WELCOMED IT TRANSMUTES AND EMBRACES YOU !

THE WEAKNESS IS YOU IDEA NOT THE TRUTH , IT IS YOUR EGO THAT HAS BEEN FIGHTING SO LONG TO PROTECT YOU THAT IT IS EXHAUSTED LET IT STOP, ALLOW IT TO REST , LET THE MONSTERS YOU HAVE FEARED SO LONG TO EAT YOU , FOR WHEN IT IS ALL FINISHED AND YOU ARE LAID BARE AND VULNERABLE , YOU WILL BE SHOWN THE TRUE MIRACLE OF LIFE ....WHO YOU ARE CAN NOT BE HARMED , CANNOT BE DAMAGED , CANNOT BE GUILTY , CANNOT BE DESTROYED.....ANYTHING THAT CAN IS NOT YOU , ANYTHING THAT CAN WAS PREVENTING YOU FROM BEING YOU !...SO WELCOME IT ALL AND KNOW YOU ARE BEING LEAD HOME TO THE ONLY PLACE YOU NEVER LEFT YOURSELF!

Radiance!

'We come from the Light and to the Light we return!"

As each Soul sits contemplating its next incarnation , no matter what the challenges are for each particular Lifetime , it looks for the circumstances that will allow it the possibility to Enter the Darkness of Forgetting and then to adventure through each day back to Remembrance as one with the Light .

We are All born an unlimited , magnificent illuminated being , sparkling with eyes of delight for everyone to behold. Each baby is a source of Joy and lightness of being , not only for the parents but also for each person that comes into contact with them , as their giggling smiling face reminds of the child in our own heart!

However as we grow up and join the world the once approved of brilliance is seen as too much , like a spotlight in their face , so the parents install a Dimmer switch to us and get about the task of keeping us quite and out of 'trouble' so we fit in with the rest of the herd! Eventually after a million "No's" we become very proficient at dimming ourselves and soon have it set on Low Lite setting! ...this pleases everyone so much that now around your 7th birthday you are awarded with your very own Lampshade so you don't have to worry about the switch and you have lots of great shadow in which to store your suppressed Feelings and unwanted emotions.

Now this is all well and good , until one day usually around what is commonly called your Aquarius rising in astrology or late twenties / early thirties the shade is overflowing and things start to leak out into your life that seem unwanted and unexpected as the emotional storeroom is full! About this time you are usually impacted by some serious challenges in life that make you question all you previously believed and you no longer feel like wearing the shade , maybe a break-up , maybe a death , maybe an illness , maybe a betrayal ... whatever it is you are left raw and vulnerable and you look elsewhere for answers !

It might be a workshop or a journey abroad but you find a glimpse of what had been hidden and you pull off the dimmer switch and your light is exposed like a beacon of illumination , and you see all the baggage you have been carrying and start the work to process, release and embrace you inner depths. As you do this your outside world is effected and people are drawn to you and your light , inquisitive of the glistening quality of your being and curious to know how they might achieve it ! Yet be aware once in your radiance they themselves become exposed and quite often they are not ready for this unexpected revealing of their long forgotten suppression and the fear and may be overwhelming and cause them to retreat back to the comfort of their shadows , yet a spark will have been set and their own journey will have begun !

The Greatest challenge as Nelson Mandela says in the famous speech "is our Light not our darkness!" yet each lifetime holds a new journey with the potential of remembrance in a new and mysterious way thus infinitely enriching the wisdom of our souls , and as we join once again the Source we bring a new shade of illumination to its eternal Radiance!

So remove your Dimmer switch today and Shine forth , you have a unique and wondrous star inside you that will benefit all that bask in it !!

Peace & Passion Paul Gotel xxx

Mastering Truth

We are all masters walking a path and although each may seem different in content they are all the same in energetics ! We are all moving from dream to waking , from consciousness to unconsciousness , constantly unravelling the knowledge we hold into experience and thus revealing the wisdom wrapped in each moment like a harvest of pearls . Yet if we get lost in the harvest and never crack open our shells the pearls are never seen , and the harvest is barren.

The perfection is the Paradox of Truth, how each seeming individual soul can act from there heart and manifest the ideal players to come into there life to offer them a mirror of themselves , be it judgement, reflection or admiration, and thus create the circumstances to experience the making Known from the Unknown and gleaning the wisdom therein. And yet somehow all beings can do this simultaneously , there is no confusion or disturbance in the Perfect chaos of choice!

To slap another is to awaken yourself to the truth that it is you who were in a box asleep ,and dreaming were slapped by there behaviour of limitation ! Awaken to the truth that all is you echoed and see the ripples are made by the stone dropped in the pool , and whilst the ripples repeat on the surface the stone drops deeper , return to the stone you are , be solid in truth and deepen in wisdom!

Ripples in Infinity!

God realisation is when each drop of water experiences itself as the ocean !

We cling so tightly to our individuality , concerned that if we allow ourselves to be engulfed into the source that we will cease to be , however this is both true and false! The limited sense of ourselves we attach to called the Ego will dissolve , yet what is revealed underneath that is the infinite Self that was eternally there ! The Feeling is of a drop of water falling into a still pond loosing its limited distinction of self as a drop yet becoming the grander experience of the ripples it creates , expanding ever outwards into the lake of infinity!

The purpose of Life is for God to experience itself through Us!

Crafted by life!

I have always been a part of the western world yet seemed to rebel from its excesses and striving for more yet after my journey away for 5 years I realised that 'to be in this world but not of it' was my path of exaggerated evolution .

All of life is a backdrop on which you project your own particular story , perfectly aligned to bring you face to face with you own cocktail of issues to focus your attention on and to resolve in peace and surrender, embracing all your negative projections back to your heart when you realise they are lost parts of You !

The scenery may change , the actors may change, your costume might change even your place in the audience will change but your essence has never changed , and the play is simply a vehicle to lead you back to what has always been true!

Whatever you choose life will constantly craft you , like an unending series of sculpturers with there chisels , each chip lost will reveal the beauty existent within us!

Biography

Paul Gotel .... Inner-power                   pglifecoach@yahoo.co.uk 

my Background


After spending the last 7 years gaining extensive inner wisdom from the highest authority , Life experience , I have accumulated a plethora of skills and knowledge , training in both personal and professional  Life coaching and Transformational leadership . I am a 7th level Reiki master , meditation lecturer and a fire walking instructor .  I was previously a founder and managing director of the country's largest music promotions group ,working for over 16 years in the competitive world of entertainment experiencing first hand  the stress and pressure of the  demanding role of  the Business life. I then sold my company group and spent the last 5 years travelling to sacred sites in over 55 countries world wide and built up a wealth of  ancient wisdom that I have married into my modern approach and which the research is currently being shaped into a forthcoming book - 'I not Me'

my Approach -                                   Inner power

Life coaching is all about promoting a space where one can gain a  Higher standard of living , not in the old way of thinking but redefining it with the emphasis on LIVING ! Increasing our sense of wealth not as money but as the inner value that is revealed to us when we learn to accept ourselves , surrender to our imperfection and take responsibility for our past and  a new positive future!

Engendering Acceptance - Allowing Surrender - Encouraging Responsibility


All our modern striving money, success, fame, respect  are aimed towards one goal the pursuit of happiness and as the buddha said  ' Peace is the highest form of happiness' . By nurturing an inner foundation of forgiveness , Peace is able to seed in this fertile soil and happiness blooms not as a result of some all to fleeting outside stimulus , but because of a real relationship with who you truly are!  

Once we drop our self- judgement we discover the overwhelming wisdom that exists withIN us all,

INtuition, INstinct, INsight, INner-sense!

Learning to trust that your INnervoice has the answers , leads to an INnerpower that radiates as charisma and confidence allowing you to bring into your career,family and relationship a new attitude of positivity and calm showing you that "when you 'C' your life differently you stop rea'C'ting and start 'C'reating!" - Neale donald walsche



my INvitation

Your own experiences have lead you to this point and shown you  that there is something more to life than a constant striving ,coping and dealing with the problems that seem to stand before you ,  it is time to take a new perspective locating  a solid grounding  within you where you'll find the clarity and focus to move forward  with a balanced and centred  approach !

I am based in aptly named Haiku on the north shore of the island paradise of Maui, in a peaceful upcountry setting where the  frenetic energy seems to melt away in this non-judgemental space and offer one to one coaching individually crafted to allow you to explore and discover who you really are ! ..and who you choose to BE!

Peace and Passion PAUL  

Home to Myself

'If you don't go within you will go without!" - Neale Donald Walsche

This simple line I first read in Neale's book Conversations with God , not only brought me from the depths of a Breakdown but lead me on a journey around the world to over 2000 sacred sites in 55 countries and finally to the destination we are all heading for , Home to Myself!

This morning I started to read a great new book The four Agreements that address this exactly and I would recommend it highly as a place to start the journey , also for those of a more magical slant The journey Home by Kyron puts this courageous adventure we are all embarked on into a epic Parable !

Essentially the we are not on a journey of acquisition but a journey of dissolution , remove what you are not and what you are is revealed as always having been there!... How do you know what to remove ? What can be removed is not you , what is eternal IS!

Peace & Passion Paul xxx